Dear Santa,

Mum has asked me to write to you this Christmas.  As you know from her past letters, she is still as bright as a button and was proud of her house and garden.   She had a nasty fall and ended up in hospital so is now in a wheelchair.  We were told by the hospital to find a nursing home as quickly as we can because they need her bed.

We have all looked to see if we could find a good nursing home for mum.  Mum was worried because she remembered seeing all those newspaper articles about neglect in aged care, so asked our Aunt Helen.  Helen gave up nursing recently because her nursing home made her redundant. Helen gave us a list of things to look for before making what she said was a very important decision.

We were told to go to the MyAgedCare website because all the information we needed was there. Mum is pretty good on the computer, but she really struggled with that website and so did we.  We eventually found the nursing homes near here.  They all looked beautiful with wonderful pictures of healthy looking people who don't look as if they need nursing.  None of the things on Helen’s list are there - only charges, contact information and license to operate details.  We visited heaps of commercial websites and downloaded their glossy brochures to try and get a picture of what life is like. We haven’t been able to find any of the information on Helen’s list – the stuff to tell us if the home is any good.

Helen's list says to try and find out the number of very sick patients (she calls them 'high care' and people with dementia) compared with the number of nurses and carers, ask about their qualifications and the staff rosters - especially at night.  She has written 'important' against food/dietary information.  This is followed by fire-safety information, home layout, who the managers are, who owns the nursing homes, how many failed quality measures like pressure sores and weight loss.

She says try and find out how many complaints were made and how many were substantiated, but none of that information is available and besides, even the justice system aren't happy with the system either, but nothing seems to change. We even looked at something called accreditation reports, but there is nothing in them from Helen's list and they all got full marks.  Helen says to ignore them because all the homes spend months preparing for the accreditors to visit every 3-5 years and it all goes back to normal afterwards.  Apparently, there are other types of yearly visits or spot checks, but the results of these reports are never made public.

Helen warned us that big companies don't have money to spare, so often don’t staff as well and the care is usually not as good.  Helen says this information is not on the MyAgedCare website because the government doesn't collect it and we need to ask the nursing homes.  Those we spoke to all said their care is so good they don’t need to collect anything like that.

Mum says that she saw a television program with the minister and a man who was introduced as a seniors representative.  They said that we have the 'best aged care system in the world' -  so good, that the Chinese want to buy our system.  She's a wily old bird and asked how do we know it's the best in the world if Australian’s can’t even find out how good our nursing homes are?  Do the Chinese know something we don’t?

Mum asked how politicians make aged care policy and create the ‘best system in the world’ if they don’t have any data or information.  She says you can’t make policy in the dark. George Bush did that and look what a mess he made of the world.  Mums younger sister Grace who retired from the university years ago says that she saw an article by one of her students claiming that evidence showed ‘aged care policy was heading in the wrong direction’ and that ‘care in private for-profit nursing homes is so bad that they are sanctioned by the government more than twice as often as church and community run nursing homes.’ She can’t understand why the department is still claiming they are the same.   After all, its their data the researchers were reporting on.

Our family assumed mum would be cared for by nurses in a ‘nursing home’.  Helen says that ‘nursing homes’ aren’t actually required to have a ‘nurse’ on duty all the time, and in some cases they have none at all. When they are there they manage but don’t nurse.  The government says this is not a kindergarden and you don’t need regulations for adults who have choices.  Helen says that because they don’t want to mislead the public into thinking that nurses actually do nursing in nursing homes and because they don’t want people to think this is their home, they have changed the name to Residential Aged Care facilities (RACFs).  People know what to expect.

Helen says that her nursing union has been trying to get the government to pass laws to make nursing homes employ enough nurses - but the politicians believe the nursing home owners who say they have adjusted rosters so that they can do without nurses.  That is why she lost her job.  Helen says most of the staff now employed to look after the residents have been trained on computers by the new more efficient contracted training companies like 'Vocation' and 'Evoca' that have replaced the old TAFEs.  She says most of them have never seen a resident and can’t tell the difference between a TicTac and the antipsychotic medication they give the dementia patients to keep them in bed and stop them being a nuisance.

Helen says that government has redefined old age to change outdated perceptions of sick and old people nearing death with a more optimistic view of active healthy smiling seniors enjoying themselves.  They've replaced terms like 'patient' or 'resident' with 'consumer' and heavily promoting 'choice'.  Mum asked Helen what happens to people who lose their memory or who are dying?  She has friends who got dementia and had others who took many months to die.   Mum says that some of her friends with dementia couldn’t choose and those who died didn’t have a choice and what has she got to choose from anyway, if there is no information?

Patients are vulnerable and can’t make choices like consumers can.  Mum can’t understand why if they want her to choose, they don’t give people like her the information they need to make choices - especially when they are as intelligent as she is.  Aunt Helen reckons that a bunch of these reviews, inquiries, consultations and stakeholder forums addressing ill thought out reforms often ignore family and staff contributions. She reckons that government have managed to anaesthetise the general public with all of these complex reforms and fancy labels, just without the use of antipsychotics like those over-prescribed in aged care. 

Helen says that her old nursing home has won a business award for its new rostering system and is employing a company to advertise this as a great advance in providing care, but she is not sure whom the advance is for.  She says with the new market system in place, her company is using the money saved to employ Public Relations consultants, Reputation Management, Marketing and Branding experts as well as Business Consultants.  Its become much more important to attract more consumers to keep the beds full and to pick richer residents.  They are employing people to develop websites, trained telephonists and salespeople to conduct tours of their facilities.  Mum says if more people are sicker in nursing homes and they die so quickly, why are they calling it ‘Living Longer Living Better’?

Some of Helen's friends reckon that being in an Australian nursing home these days is a bit like that psychological horror flick 'House of 9' where a bunch of strangers are kidnapped, drugged, and placed in a home together with no way out.

We are very worried about Mum.  She has been on her computer all night searching the internet.  She has read about people in nursing homes being raped, robbed, bathed in kerosene, attacked by rodents, poisoned, burnt, cooked and choked to death.  She says some staff have amused themselves by mocking and playing demeaning games on them (‘spot the body part’ or rolled in tomato sauce). There are examples of deaths due to neglect, injuries covered up, families kept in the dark or banned from visiting loved ones.  Nurses who have told the police or newspapers about these things have been sacked.

She says she has been reading about pressure sores because residents are lying in faeces and urine for hours on end because incontinence pads are rationed and that there are no nurses to clean them up or turn them regularly.  She has seen stories of overgrown nails, untreated infections, medication stuff ups, malnourishment because of poor food and dehydration.  She says it goes on and on.  She has decided this talk about the best aged care in the world is a furphy. She wants nurses to look after her. 

We are getting very worried now because the hospital has started sending Mum threatening letters saying that if she doesn’t choose a nursing home they are going to send her back to the family.  We live in a house with two flights of stairs, we both work and have six children at school.   We don’t know how we will manage when Mum comes to stay with us.

Please Santa.  The family says please don’t worry about any presents for us.  But PLEASE when you go into the nursing homes this Christmas, would you have a look and see what they had for dinner, if any of them have nurses there to look after the patients, are they clean or does it smell.   Can you find us just one nursing home that looks as if the patients are happy and well looked after there?   I know Mum would really appreciate it.  She says that if she can’t find a nursing home that can care for her and if it is too much of a nuisance to us, she knows how to end it all and we know what that means.

Thank you Santa so much for your help,
Annabel and family.

PS. Aunt Helen is very worried.  She says please don’t show this letter to anyone.  She says that when nurses or even families have told people what happens in nursing homes they have received letters from a lawyer threatening to take them to court.  Neither Helen nor Mum would like this to happen to them.    


#2 Tania 2016-06-09 08:32
Dear Annabel and family,

I hope that the social workers at a major Sydney hospital in the eastern suburbs helped your mum find a bed and didn't tell you that if "the family" did not find a bed for your mum soon she would have to go to respite "sight unseen".

I was so scared they would send my Mum to some nursing home 100 km away, but I later found out that they were not allowed to do this and the social worker was just playing a few little games with me.

I hope that your mum was not assessed as low care by the hospital "team" so that it would be easier to find a respite place for her and then when she got to the very nice respite home all of a sudden they decided she was "high care" and had to move out after three months (even though I thought that the new system meant that there was no such thing as "low care"or "high care").

I hope that Santa found you Mum a nice nursing home that was properly staffed and that developed a care plan according to your Mum's individual needs, and that you did not find dealing with the Aged "Care" System to be a bit like being Alice down the Rabbit Hole dealing with with the Mad Hatter and the Queen of Hearts like we did.
#1 Glenda 2016-03-13 09:13
Dear Annabel,
Your Mum has every right to be worried. Your letter says it all but, if like me, after months and months of trying to highlight the issues with those who can actually do something about it and you get no satisfactory responses, it will drag you down to a point where you just become angry. You are lucky to have family around you for support and to take some of the angst. My experience has made me so cynical about politics and private industry that I can't even have a rational conversation about it anymore. I wish your Mum all the best and truly hope she can settle somewhere for this next phase of her life. I wish you all the best in trying to find an aged "care" facility that at the very least provides good medical care.
Kindest regards.